Absence makes the heart grow fonder
I was going on vacation for a week. A week, that’s all. What could go wrong in a week?
Only hours before I headed to the airport I was still drafting long summaries of project statuses, things to do, and requests like “at the very least, please make sure to accomplish…” and “don’t hesitate to text me if there are questions or concerns.” My husband looked at me witheringly as I scrambled to tick off my to do list – “Don’t worry,” I said from the couch staring only at my screen, “We don’t have to leave for at least 10 minutes, just let me finish this one thing.” Then there was the one thing I didn’t finish, and I decided to bring my laptop with me to Italy.
My first night in Rome I dreamt not about wine and pasta and baroque sculpture but about the last week’s status calls and to-do lists. In the morning, sipping a doppio espresso, I hazily fired off an email with the subject line “Demons of a jet-lagged mind” asking a tech lead to confirm that the latest code had indeed been delivered to the client. I reluctantly closed my laptop and then headed off to brave the Roman subway system.
And then, I sipped spumante at lunch. I butchered the Italian language while ordering pizza with mysterious toppings. I leaned against 2000 year old stone walls. I opened my laptop one last time to change my flight home to a day later.

When I got back to the office on Monday I was greeted by about 800 unread emails, 5 voicemails (as indicated by the irritating, incessantly blinking red light on my phone), and two frantic text messages from my account lead asking if I’m on “the call.” Amazingly I didn’t panic. I started going through emails and voicemails based on what the biggest priorities were (that I could remember from before I left), and went to say hello to the account lead after “the call” was over. Nothing had fallen apart, no one had sustained bodily injuries, clients were as cheerful as they could be on a Monday morning. As much was going on if not more than before I left, but I wasn’t frantic. Actually, I had kind of missed the place.
At this time of year, many of us are planning to take at least a day or two of time away from work, either for holidays or just to make sure that we use our use ‘em or lose ‘em vacation days (unless, of course, you work for Netflix, who has no vacation policy). Surprisingly, a recent study shows that just 46% of US workers plan to use all of their vacation time this year. A third of workers say they haven’t taken any time off from work yet this year. Not surprisingly, another study found that most people come back from long vacations feeling more relaxed (83%) and more energized (74%).
For me, the simple but key activity of planning for time off – of identifying who my backups were, making clear lists of what needed to be done – meant that things kept moving without me while I was gone. And in fact, things kept moving forward when I was back even though I wasn’t 110% sure of every detail of every project. A week away gave me a bit of perspective – I could see that the molehills were indeed molehills, not mountains, and I could focus on the important things rather than panicking about the details.
So, happy holiday season to everyone from a refreshed me! I hope you’re planning to take some time off. And, please, don’t bring your laptop.
Tags: Anne S, culture, holidays, productivity, vacation


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